I’m going to be a creep and ask you to do somethings, even though you don’t really know me and you have no reason to follow my advice. Let’s play along for now, okay?
When you go home, do the following two things for me. It’s not just for girls. All of us, male, female and everyone in between. We’re doing this together. We’re a team here. (Even though you literally just found this blog)
Okay, so you’re home? (Any other equivalent would do) Good. Now take your makeup off if you’re wearing it. Chill, I’m not against make-up. I love it myself. Just trust me on this one. I’m taking it off with you, too.
Is it done? Cool.
Now take your clothes off. Again, I know I sound like a creep but I’m asking you to play along with me again. Just take it all off. Be sure to close all the doors and windows. Take off any shred of clothing you have on. Go stand in front of your mirror. Take your hair down. If your hairdo took some effort, I respect that yo. But otherwise if you’ve got your hair tied up, let them loose.
Look at yourself. Really, really look at yourself. Turn around, swirl a little, do whatever you want. Just really see yourself. Notice each and every scar, every little freckle, every mole every stretch mark. Don’t let anything go by. You can pretend you’re at a photo-shoot, if you like. Strike a pose, hold your hair up, do anything you want. Just let yourself loose. Put on a song, dance to it, pretend you’re in a music video. Hell, you can twerk if that’s what you like to do. Just do you.
Now, if you like what you see, you rock! If you don’t like what you see, you rock!
This next step might take a little more effort. I need you to make up a list. Under one head, list all the things you don’t like about yourself which are physical. Under the other head, list all the attributes you like about yourself which are not physical. And don’t be one of those people who’re like I don’t have any good quality. That’s a lie. You know it, I know it, pretty sure everyone else knows it, too.
Which list is longer? The physical one or the other one?
If the list which contains the physical “imperfections” is longer, I’m going to have to ask you to read it again and again. Tell me, something. Are those things you don’t like about yourself or are they something you’ve been told are wrong with you. This one is going to take a while to realize. You’ll need to think long and hard about it. There are certain things that we think define beauty. That’s the most fuckall concept of them all. I’m more likely to agree with Donald Trump than I am to agree with the fact that beauty can be defined.
The literal definition of beauty is “pleasing the senses or mind aesthetically”. Isn’t that the most flexible and compliant thing you’ve ever read? Some people find the rain beautiful, while some hate it. Some people love Van Gogh while some can’t stand him. We don’t criticize them for it, then why do we do it when it comes to physical appearance of other people? Everything that please YOU is beautiful and everything that doesn’t is not. (Don’t be an asshole and stomp on other people’s opinions. You may like it, you may not like it. Nothing gives you the right to be judgmental towards other people’s opinions) A thigh gap doesn’t define you. Your skin color doesn’t define you. Your weight doesn’t define you. Nothing but your energy defines you. Trust me on this thing. It doesn’t matter what you look like if your energy is positive. I know I sound like a hippie right now talking about Energy and all that crap. But it’s real. The more positive your thoughts are, the more you will accept yourself. The more you accept yourself, the more you are accepting of others. You know, if I think about it now, maybe the only reason I was such a shitty person up until a year ago was because I didn’t accept myself. Although I did all those things without any intention, people did get hurt. I hurt them, because deep down I wanted to hurt myself. I know sorry doesn’t do much, but it’s all I got. You look the way you do because that’s the way it is. If you’re body is healthy, there’s no reason why you should gain or lose weight. Health is everything. It’s all that matters. Instead of trying to fit into the “Ideal” concept of beauty, how about we try to focus on being healthy instead?
Now, if your list of internal qualities was longer than the list of things you don’t like about your physical appearance, I need you to tell me what your thoughts are on what I just said. Am I right or wrong? Please, also tell me if I missed something.
What I was trying to say was that the day you accept yourself, you turn into a newer and better version of yourself. You feel good and you do good. It takes time, I should know. It’s not impossible to love yourself, either. YOU are the person you have to live with for the rest of your life, every waking and sleeping second. The least we can do is love ourselves, right?
With that, we’re done with the weirdest exercise ever.